05/27/2024
“I am an American fighting in the forces which guard my country and our way of life. I am prepared to give my life in their defense.”
And so begins Article One of the Code of Conduct for every member of the Armed Forces of the United States of America. Each enlisted person recognizes the profound risk they assume in beginning their service to the country. They understand by enlisting in the Armed Forces the ultimate sacrifice they might make in protecting that country and that way of life.
And yet, what about their families? What about the ones who hugged their child goodbye, kissed their sweetheart, or pleaded with their parent to be careful? Who notifies these parents, spouses or children when their loved one loses their life in support of the country?
Beginning near the end of World War II and formalized during the onset of the Vietnam War, each branch of the military developed its own process to follow when informing the family of fallen soldiers.
For the Marine Corps, this ministry is caried out by officers who bear the emotionally devastating responsibility of notifying families of the loss of their loved ones in the line of duty. The Marine Corps Casualty Assistance Calls Officers (CACOs) park their vehicles in front of a house, approach the front door, ring the doorbell, and wait. They know that as soon as the door opens, a family member will be utterly crushed, as they share words every military family dreads:
“I regret to inform you…”
The CACOs convey the news and stand by as the reality of it sinks in, ready to offer immediate comfort and support. It’s common for these officers to observe parents collapsing into each other’s arms, children weeping loudly for a parent who will never return, and spouses shrieking in agony … or crumbling to the floor in silence.
Regardless the reaction, present with them in this heartache are the CACOs. The role involves more than simply delivering news; it entails entering the sacred space of a family’s home to deliver a life-altering message. These officers remain with that family as they walk through profound grief, anger and uncertainty. They help the family navigate the overwhelming array of administrative tasks, arrange for military honors, coordinate funeral services, remain with the fallen veteran until burial, and ensure that the family receives all due benefits.
In short, they ensure that not only the fallen soldier, but the entire family is shown the respect and honor worthy of the ultimate sacrifice they have made for their country.
Today, many of us will enjoy a day off work. We'll sleep in, take walks, watch shows, or spend time with family and friends. And yet, many in our communities remain unaware of the true significance of this day.
On this Memorial Day, let us pause and remember why we have this day off. Let us give thanks for the incredible opportunities we have today and remember the ultimate sacrifices that provided these freedoms.
In a world where we often celebrate people for their beauty, social following, or professional success, let’s ensure the humility, sacrifice, life, and death of these heroes continue to shine brightly through those of us lucky enough to live on.
Today is your day. Live Inspired.