03/02/2024
You need a partner who becomes your safe space as you go through hardships of life.
You need a partner who is a part of the cure for your problems, not the cause.
A true partner may not have the power to solve all your problems, but they never let you face them alone.
Life is a war, and your partner should be your fighting buddy. Yet this generation does not marry for war time. They marry for a good time. They don't think about the happenings of life. They just focus on their own happiness. No wonder such marriages never stand the test of time.
Many don't even get married lest they get inconvenienced by the commitment when they decide to leave. People just come close to enjoy happy times, and when unhappy times come, they chuck out.
Faithless is he that says goodbye when the road darkens. But you should first hook up with a traveller. If you start fleeting around with an explorer, you're the one who is mistaken.
Get a person who wants the journey of marriage, and they're ready to commit to it with you. For better for worse.
Napoleon Hill said that there's no problem that can withstand the assault of sustained thinking and that two minds working in harmony become a mastermind.
Only a mastermind of two united souls can navigate the challenges of marriage life. You can not win the war with a fair-weather person who keeps disappearing and reappearing when storms come.
If you say you've been living with a person who has never agreed to formalize things, you're the one who picked a tourist of love rather than a traveller. The tourist's main goal is fun while the traveller has a destination.
Even when the tourist lover cheats at every opportunity, they're not really cheating but living the life they chose. You're the one who is mismatched.
In short, your partner should compliment your journey, not complicate it. If what you have is constant stress and endlessly solving problems, that's not love but counterfeit.
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