30/08/2026
💔 A disagreement. A loss. A lifetime of grief.
In August 2012, Tom and his best mate Jack,went out together for a night in Birmingham.
After an argument, they parted ways in anger. Hours later, Tom received a phone call that would change his life forever.
Jack had been killed in a single-vehicle crash.
More than 14 years later, Tom still lives with the question no one can answer:
"If I'd left with him, would he still be alive?"
The grief and guilt that followed led Tom down a dark path, affecting his mental health, relationships and future.
Today, Tom is a firefighter, advanced trauma care practitioner and wellbeing lead, using his experiences to help others at their worst moments and encourage safer choices on our roads.
His message is simple:
Road crashes don't just affect those involved. The consequences ripple through families, friends and communities for years, sometimes a lifetime.
If you're struggling with grief, guilt or trauma following the loss of a loved one, please know that support is available and talking about it can be the first step towards healing.
Warwickshire Police
Warwickshire Fire and Rescue Service
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WCC Road Safety Education & Active Travel
