04/09/2026
Apparently replying to criticism = being defensive now 😂
I get this comment surprisingly often.
Someone will leave a rude or critical comment about the way I teach, I’ll reply and explain the context… and suddenly it becomes:
“No need to be so defensive, I was only trying to help.”
But here’s the thing - disagreeing with you isn’t defensiveness.
If you’re a complete stranger commenting on a two-minute clip from a two-hour lesson, you don’t know the learner, their ability, what we’ve already covered, what the learning objective was or what happened before and after that clip.
And equally, I don’t know you. I don’t know your experience, qualifications or whether your advice is something I should actually be taking.
So no, I’m not automatically going to accept unsolicited feedback simply because somebody has typed it confidently into a Facebook comment 😂
I run a business with my name and reputation attached to it. If somebody publicly suggests that I’m teaching incorrectly, of course I’m allowed to respond and give the context.
That doesn’t mean I think I’m always right. I learn from other instructors all the time and I’m perfectly capable of changing my mind when somebody makes a good point.
But there’s a difference between a genuine professional discussion and somebody giving unsolicited criticism, then calling you “defensive” when you don’t immediately agree with them.
You’re allowed to criticise me.
I’m allowed to answer.
That’s how public comment sections work 🤷🏻♀️😂
You’re free to comment. Just don’t cry when the sass comes back 💁🏻♀️
