Santa's Mailman

05/28/2026

May 27, 2022. On this day 4 years ago I wrote a letter to a dying child. It’s the first & only time I’ve done that & it’s not a stretch to say that’s probably the fastest I’ve ever written a letter. I found out about this child through some of my friends on this platform. I asked if he believed in Santa, they said yes, I had an address almost immediately and I was on my way to the post office not 15 minutes later.

I am a big believer in doing what you can with what you have from where you’re at. This felt like the least I could do. It’s important to remember that what may feel like the most basic, entry-level, thing that comes incredibly easy to you might actually be extraordinary to other people.

I learned a lot about myself when I did this, not the least of which is that every day people I know do things that seem so extraordinary to me I wouldn’t even begin to attempt them. It never occurred to me that anyone might think that about something I do.

I have written to deceased children and very young children who’ve had a parent die in the line of duty. I have written to a dying child. I have written to incarcerated people. I have written to deceased parents and living parents grieving adult children. I have written to nurses during the early days of Covid. I have written to women who have miscarried children.

All of this, while incredibly taxing, is actually quite easy for me. I know down to my bones there’s no letter I can’t write. It literally feels like the least I can do for these people. I will die and/or cry trying.

I say all of this to remind you that I am 100% certain that there are many people in your life who can point directly and immediately to something that you do that seems just as extraordinary to them yet seems like a low bar for you. What you have to contribute matters to people no matter how “small” it may feel when you look around.

I also say this to remind you that letters are incredibly important and are not, in fact, a lost art form. So hug your people. Send some mail. Don’t let comparison stop you from doing what you can with what you have from right where you’re at. The life you change might be your own. XO, Stephanie 🎅🏻💌

05/10/2026

Did a little time lapse on my trip from Warwick to Portsmouth, Barrington, and East Greenwich a few weeks back. Practicing doing voiceovers, editing, actually making a video, the whole bit. Y’all this is not easy. If you think it looks easy it’s because those creators are very good at it. Also: Rhode Islander’s have a reputation for not being willing to drive anywhere more than 10 minutes away. Obviously, I don’t have that gene, but this is some local on local shade so please enjoy. Hug your people. Send some mail. XO, Stephanie 🎅🏻💌

04/25/2026

Happy Perfect Date to all who celebrate. It’s 49°F / 9°C and while I, personally, do not need a jacket, if you do, that’s OK. Hug your people. Send some mail. XO, Stephanie🎅🏻💌

04/22/2026

My incredibly talented friend Liesel at took a bunch of photos of her Christmas goodies and I love them all so much, but I especially love how much these names mean to her. The stories y’all tell me really do stay with me. If you’ve been wondering what the scale of a Letter from Bernard is, you can see one with the pink Elf. I hope your week is off to a good start. Hug your people. Send some mail. Maybe leave someone a 25 minute voice note. I did two of those things today, you can guess which. 😉🎅🏻💌

04/17/2026

Bernard Letters will be returning for year 2 and I’m so excited, they really do charm me every time I make one {so tiny}. This is the only one I know of that arrived by balloon 🎈. Thanks to .inthedetails for this photo and a bunch more you’ll see in the run up to opening day(s). It’s always Christmas at my house and 2026 planning is well underway.

01/27/2026

And remember: there’s no such thing as “other people’s” children.

How can you be a hero this week? ❤️

01/02/2026

I decided this warrants a spot on the grid. There is no universe, no second of any day, where I take writing to the people you love most in this world for granted. Regardless of age and sometimes even when there’s no breath in their bodies, y’all ask me to give fun news (*still* waiting to be asked to do a marriage proposal so…) and talk about the worst things that have ever happened to you. It breaks me a thousand different ways, annually, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love you. I hope 2026 is good to you. If it is, I’ll be here. If it’s not, I’ll be here. Hug your people. Send some mail. XO, Stephanie 🎅🏻💌

12/04/2025

This is a small business I am a big fan of!

11/27/2025

No sleep ‘til Brooklyn.

Happy Thanksgiving 💌 Today, we’re showing thanks for Postal Service workers, Posties, and turkey (if it wasn't obvious) 🦃

11/21/2025

So much talent!